Inexpensive Praise

 People heaping praise on others are the most loved. But it is not wise to do it incessantly and there should be a limit to it. Sycophants who do it more and more to gain favour of an authoritarian person are hated by people other than the target himself. This is not the topic here.

Imagine a person is down with you and is envious of the person and stature attached to you. The best way to gain favour and some respect from him is to praise him as compared to his forthright enemy. This can settle the score and the man who is against you can respect your stature somewhat.

I had the privilege of doing this and gaining some ground in the man's mind. His close confidante from many years became an unrelenting soft enemy. I praised the person's language skills as compared with this enemy. The result was that he became welcoming to me and the creditworthiness of me increased in his sight. The words hit the sweet spot of the target and life became easier.

This is not so manipulative of people and some form of flattery should exist. But I am not in favour with it. Moderation is the key. Practice willingly with caution.

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