Adjudicated Parallels

When you look at people around, there is a small amount of inspiration derived from how the ministries in the Government work. There cannot be an apt term for this set of activities and expectations for people or society or relatives or others friends. You become the ambassador of the allegiance that keeps you sworn to. For example: Imagine that there is an opportunity for you to attend your extended family's get-together. There, everyone supposes you to be the ambassador of your family. Every issue that is crept into or is related to your family members puts you in their shoes. If your family member has a fight with the extended family members or been acidic or foul-mouthed to their counterpart, there is an expectation for you to answer and manage it. This keeps you in the loop or you have to answer every query or complaint or ill feeling that the people bear as the victim of your family's member who unleashed evil. There is no room for being ill-informed or less initiate...

There is quite a speculation among people about how to arrive at an informed decision with foresight. The checklist may be plentiful with items developed with experience. But, it's a fact also that nobody has ever learnt to be adequately equipped in handling these inviting traps. I was privy to one such incident wherein the qualms of a particular person were exposed. The family friend of ours was pestered and nagged by his neighbour a few months after they developed a shared borewell. He set many rules about this quasi tradition and this poor person even had to bear the cost of maintaining and refurbishing the tubewell. This is quite common and everyone experiences it. The only antidote is to not share anything with others- especially a property. Make your own norms and earn happiness in life. What belongs to others is not yours. Not even half of it.

It's heartening to note how family and friends can turn into foes, given the materialistic possessions coming in the way. There cannot be a second's discretion from these kinsmen to usurp properties or assets and live a life of luxury. This luxury rarely transcends violence and a peaceful coexistence becomes just a fabled thought. Relatively, all that remains is mired relationships and barely-there bonds. I know a person who was very cordial with his siblings- and more precisely, one of his own brethren. The familial bond developed into trust and this relationship exhorted him to share an asset with the person without a binding agreement. Soon, the sibling usurped the property because of dire needs and sent the real owner into exile to a nearby town- well, literally. These type of incidents has made it necessary for people to put the purchase of assets on paper. And even more so, the legally binding papers are necessarily given a forethought as to how the lacunae can be pl...