Adjudicated Parallels

Veracity of control is an illusion. Anything that you can control becomes monotonous and boring. Uncertainty brings about mixed feelings, but it is enjoyable. Knowing where life can take you brings a less worthy permutation. Consider preparing for an exam. If you would have known the outcome or result of it, the very purpose would have been defeated. Risking something not very important is a joy of life. Risking even greater things is gambling. But the former is less severe and scathing on life. It brings its own joys.

 Being familiar to someone is a very eerie thing to everyone around. The moment one gets familiar with someone, there develops an air of frankness to say anything to the person involved: even wild things. The subtle changes and unambiguous traits to see in those who tend to be this way is in their talks or gestures. Though the exact fodder to this phenomenon is akin to a wild goose chase, some highlighted behavior gives anyone a creep. Once I had been privy to such a situation when one of the person my mother became close to had the said feeling for her. The lady was a person with a menial job to fend for and gradually grew close to her. Later, through the course of time, she took my mom for granted and demanded more goodies/freebies. The moment she ignored the woman, she felt miffed. My mom knew that she courted trouble for being nice to her. A very important thing to remember is one should follow the nuances and manners of the society they can represent. Anything that is not alon...

Nowadays, anybody can give colour to any incident or act of anyone around. The things regarding the choice of the person as to what led to them choosing the same as against another, can bring justifiable colour. The same goes in public acts of somebody famous too. While it may be innocuous in the eyes of the subject, it may totally foment wrong opinions. Recently, a person known to me became the cause of this confusion: He was apprehended by a law enforcement official for being at the wrong place at the right time. The fact that he looked hefty and rather rugged brought about many wrong pointers in their mind. When somebody freed him from their clutches, they were more convinced that he was a vagabond. But through continued contact with him and knowing him better they thought otherwise. This can happen to anybody and what something is shown need not be what it seems. There can be plenty of instances pointing to this but the reality prevails. Good that something incriminating to be put ...

 In all the humdrum around in bustling areas, people fail to notice many obviously overlooked things. One of them is the wrong notion of everything or everyone put in their thinking of elitism. The notion is that if a person is very talented, he need to fit in a greater walk of life or should not be a 'big fish in a small pond'. While this aspect of their thinking seems to be absolutely true, it is really not. I once was interviewed by a writing company and they asked me to send a sample article. They gave some silly reason and ruled out my writing altogether. Though I thought that the Company was good, I later found out that there was a dearth or lacking of ample work in it for all the employees. Interestingly, only an article would be written by an employee over a period of few months. The fact that if I was working there, it would be a struggle to make ends meet for a living made me thankful for the course of my career I chose. I learnt work from an editor and that helped me...

 People heaping praise on others are the most loved. But it is not wise to do it incessantly and there should be a limit to it. Sycophants who do it more and more to gain favour of an authoritarian person are hated by people other than the target himself. This is not the topic here. Imagine a person is down with you and is envious of the person and stature attached to you. The best way to gain favour and some respect from him is to praise him as compared to his forthright enemy. This can settle the score and the man who is against you can respect your stature somewhat. I had the privilege of doing this and gaining some ground in the man's mind. His close confidante from many years became an unrelenting soft enemy. I praised the person's language skills as compared with this enemy. The result was that he became welcoming to me and the creditworthiness of me increased in his sight. The words hit the sweet spot of the target and life became easier. This is not so manipulative of p...

 Everywhere around there are examples of people investing heavily to achieve their goals since childhood. But many of these get lost in the essence till the child grows up. This is the same thing and is evident of the fact that the materialistic world is not to be desired upon or yield to. I can relate countless incidents to this thought: One of them is a known person to me. He started early in his life and was enamored by a brand of vehicle that used to be very trendy then. But, as he started growing up, today the dream or goal has lost its relevance. To be precise, he settled with a second hand car. This is because the brand name of the car had stopped manufacturing the same. Quite appealing? Yes. But, it is the same case with me too. But my version of the car still prevails and I can buy it some day. It is wise to say that goals and dreams need to be set very high. This makes the saturation of it in our mind or the world less possible too. Anyways, the materialistic world was ne...

 I recently noticed what a tinge of sincerity can do to uplift one's standard of living or make a mark at a workplace. These go a long way to build up confidence among the clients or even among customers. They end up to be long lasting partners in the relationship. It can turn anyone's fortune around. This aspect of workplace ethos was seen by me in the life of a person with odd jobs. He does any kind of job with great sincerity. Coming up from a third world neighbouring Country, every kind of work is done by him and he never throws up tantrums when asked to go the extra mile. But contrastingly, another peer of his in the gated complex of my relative is very annoying at work. This domestic help has fits of rage and a lot of lame excuses. Needless to say, nobody employs her in the gated community, but only a handful of residents. To make matters worse, she does not think that an introspection needs to be done in her worklife. The lack of this will to improve also puts a strangle...