Adjudicated Parallels

When you look at people around, there is a small amount of inspiration derived from how the ministries in the Government work. There cannot be an apt term for this set of activities and expectations for people or society or relatives or others friends. You become the ambassador of the allegiance that keeps you sworn to. For example: Imagine that there is an opportunity for you to attend your extended family's get-together. There, everyone supposes you to be the ambassador of your family. Every issue that is crept into or is related to your family members puts you in their shoes. If your family member has a fight with the extended family members or been acidic or foul-mouthed to their counterpart, there is an expectation for you to answer and manage it. This keeps you in the loop or you have to answer every query or complaint or ill feeling that the people bear as the victim of your family's member who unleashed evil. There is no room for being ill-informed or less initiate...

A very peculiar fact of a human's existence is his vision. Nobody can see further from his visual range as the senses of his body are limited. He may laugh at people, who in the near future are to be successful or a turn of fortune awaits them,  when they share that with him. But, to others who have faith and hope to carry to the distance, there awaits a good upheaval. I know a person who was privy to one such situation. There was no hope in the distance he could see, but suddenly --for the better-- the situation changed. The fact that there was no good field of work in his life, tormented him. Later, in the best possible way, he was introduced to the academic world without graduation. He turned into a Writer. People used to say all doors are closed and there is no future in the near distance. But, this was only a problem with their vision. A meagre income with a job satisfaction can mean a lot to people. So, it did to him. A good place in society is what a person can crave fo...

It is regrettable to see that people act on convenience or when it doesn't hurt their own selves. They lash their tongue out at others when gossipping. The moment the buck stops at them they devise myriad ways to end the talk. This is blatantly found in the various interactions with people. While taking a look at prominent personalities, this is not so. Many of these accepted criticism. Pandit Jawaharlal Nehru accepted criticism from Atal Bihari Vajpayee in many of his speeches that acquired cult status in the parliament. He even introduced him to many dignitaries as praiseworthy instead of reviling. This shows great maturity. Taking a leaf out of these stalwarts books, can help many win accolades. One should be on their toes and develop great character. Constructive criticism with a pinch of salt can do wonders.

It is a well-known fact --at least in some circles-- that people hover around those who are very popular and sinister in their dealings with others. But the veritable statement is the disciples of these people are around them only for their selfish gains. After these ends are met, such followers part the company. I know about a good acquaintance who was very manipulative and terse with everyone. Slowly, the company with the person dwindled and the man himself withdrew into a shell, nowhere to be found. This is a true incident with full of lessons. The fact that the trendsetter was a difficult person, lead to this situation. Admirers, as they sound to be, surround such people in the limelight for all the wrong reasons. What remains is a clear conviction that the approach to being rude and terse was wrong. Be in the news for the right reasons by being polite and no snubbing. The pain of being deserted doesn't stand a chance.

There is quite a speculation among people about how to arrive at an informed decision with foresight. The checklist may be plentiful with items developed with experience. But, it's a fact also that nobody has ever learnt to be adequately equipped in handling these inviting traps. I was privy to one such incident wherein the qualms of a particular person were exposed. The family friend of ours was pestered and nagged by his neighbour a few months after they developed a shared borewell. He set many rules about this quasi tradition and this poor person even had to bear the cost of maintaining and refurbishing the tubewell. This is quite common and everyone experiences it. The only antidote is to not share anything with others- especially a property. Make your own norms and earn happiness in life. What belongs to others is not yours. Not even half of it.

There are superiors at many of our workplaces. These people want to get the best out of us in everything we do. Though they may be nagging to us at times, their work is all the more necessary for our workplaces to get these going and in fine shape. Whatever field of work you are in, the best way to tackle these taskmasters is to do the right thing. This means that you should appear upfront and honest with clear conscience at everything they ask you to do or what they manage. I met a conductor who used to ask people to tender exact change for buying tickets on her bus. This she did as it was a trip during the wee hours of the morning- there was no change in currencies with her. Soon, I bought her the exact change on daily trips and she developed respect for me. The other people who didn't bring small amounts of currency for buying the tickets, were not lavished with such respect. Always do the right thing and please the ones in control. There is a great reward attached to it....

People in everyday dealings with others have a lot of misconceptions and assumptions. They believe these from their heart. The outcome of it can scare them and it only happens when they act out of sheer gullibility. Being at your wittiest best and expecting it beforehand can do wonders. I was privy to one such instance when an old lady was standing in a queue. The moment I saw her, there was an assumption from my side. Later, the assumption was found out to be wrong. To be precise, I thought the old woman was a sociable person and a lady with gentle manners. This was because of her age. She was quite a quarrelsome woman. The moment some people from a VIP background entered into the office she was in queue, this woman created a ruckus. I was flabbergasted and her quite irate behaviour put many to shock. This lady was even ready to beat up the people who blocked her into getting through the VIP counter and stirring trouble. This is not about old people and many instances can be fo...